I am enlightened!
I will neither feel sorry for myself nor feel miserable.

We, by nature,proactive, if our lives are a function of conditioning and conditions, it is because we have, by conscious decision or by default, chosen to empower those things to control us.

In making such a choice, we become reactive. Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good,they feel good. If it isn't, it affects their attitude and their performance.

Proactive people on the other hand, can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines males no difference to them. They are value driven; and if their value is to produce good quality work, it isn't a function of whether the weather is conducive to it or not.

Reactive people are also affected by their social environment, by the "social weather". When people treat them well, they feel well; when people don't, they become defensive or protective.
Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behaviour of others, empowering the weaknesses of other people to control them.

The ability to subordinate an impulse to value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, circumstances, conditions and by their environment. Whereas proactive people are driven by values-carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.

Proactive people are still influenced by external stimuli, whether social, physical ,or psychological. But their responses to stimuli, conscious or unconscious, is a value-based choice or response.

As Eleanor Roosevelt observed,"No one can hurt you without your consent."
In the words of Gandhi," They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them."

It is our willing permission , our consent to what happens to us, that hurts us far more than what happens to us in the first place.

I admit it is very hard to accept emotionally, especially we have had years and years of explaining our misery in the name of circumstances or someone else's behaviour. BUT until a person can say deeply and honestly, " I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday," the person cannot say ,"I choose otherwise."


Well, its not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. Of course, things can hurt us physically or economically and can cause sorrow. But our character, our basic identity, does not have to be hurt at all. In fact, our most difficult experiences become the crucibles that forge our character and develop the internal powers, the freedom to handle difficult circumstances in the future and to inspire others to do so as well.

We have all known individuals in very difficult circumstances, perhaps with terminal illness or severe physical handicap, who maintain magnificent emotional strength.

For example my dad, he was diagnosed with colon cancer back in 2007. He never gave up and lived life to the fullest. Encouraging everyone around him and especially me. He told me to look at life in a different perspective. He told me once," You choose your life and the journey you want to embark on. The future is in your hands.You choose."
Up till the day he died, he was still fighting.
I miss him.

Nothing has greater,longer lasting impression upon another person than the awareness that someone has transcended suffering, has transcended circumstances, and is embodying and expressing a value that inspires and ennobles and lifts life.


At this current moment, I feel as though I am freed from my own chains of misery.
I feel liberated at last.

NO longer am I going to be controlled by the treatment of some person.



left her thoughts ♥ 9:56:00 PM

Human beings are complicated by nature and I wouldn't deny that.
You wouldn't believe my profession. But I have a strong passion for what I do.
I'm not a great dancer but dancing its one of my only burning passion in life that keeps me going. =)

A petite girl who loves to socialise and have tons of fun!
I'm patient but don't try to test the limits.
Well,as long as you are not a weirdo,you're most welcomed to join my social circle.
*cheerios!!